How to write a Best Man’s Speech

How to write a best Mans Speech Writing a best man’s speech is easier than you may think. In this short ‘manual’, if you like, I will take you through all you need to write a great best man’s speech.

[If you are really pressed for time click on our “fill-in-the-blanks Best Man Speech Example”]

When I write a best man’s speech, I always picture a close friend with his partner. Obviously you will have these people in mind. The first thing I do is make a list of things that I need to include, these are

Dates – how long have they been together, how long have they known each other?
Background of his wife to be. Although your speech is not about her, you must give her a paragraph. In this paragraph you say what she is like and how she makes your friend feel.
What they want from life and their relationship.

These few points are essential. As funny as you make your speech you must add real events that have happened (the points above).

The next few points you need are down to you as the best man. You need to write down these points along with the ones above.

A funny story. An essential in a best man’s speech. But there are a few rules you must obey. Firstly, ex-girlfriends are not out of bounds but no gory details, if you know what I mean. If you can, avoid them. Try to make the story between 150 and 300 words. Any less than this, and the story will be too vague, any more and it runs the risk of being too long and dragging to the extent of boredom. Finally the story has to be real, if you make it up, the groom and those who know him will find out, which could lead to a tricky situation.
What is your friend like as a friend, as a partner to his wife to be, and as a man? For example is he a hard worker, romantic etc?
The final two things you need to write are these. What has he achieved in his life, in love with his wife to be? And in his working life, school to work? And secondly how do you want to see him in a year’s time? Kids, a promotion at work, things like that. Also add after these points that you haven’t forgot about his new wife, but that you know they will be together for a lot longer than a year.

After you have got all this information there is a set way that you must write it and say it. If you follow the guide-lined layout, inserting your information, your speech will be close to completion. After you have finished writing in your information, give it to a friend to read. Watch them read it. It is harder to laugh while reading funny material so if they laugh, you have cracked it. If they like it, you are finished. The layout is below for you to follow.

Good luck with your writing. I am sure you will do great.

Firstly thank the groom for his speech, and the father of the bride for his. Also thank all for attending.
Give up a toast for the pair of parents. And say thank you to them on behalf of the bride and groom.
The bride and groom as a couple. What they are like together, etc.
Tell the story of your friend, the funny one. Put real emotion into this to get the best laughs.
What he is like, and what he has achieved. Love and life.
The bride. What she is like and what impact she has made on his life.
The final toast. Just a quick mention to wish them all the best.

Written by the Presentation Helper speech writer – Ryan Marshall

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20 June 2007

Comments on: How to write a Best Man’s Speech

this has been so helpful. its not a cut and paste one, which takes all the work out of it and theres plenty of room for your own work and emotions in it. its a great template and i’m so glad i found it

Thank you for your tips and help. I’m nervous but with this help hope it makes it easier – all the way from Sydney Australia

cheers for the help im so nervos over the wedding an after reading your website its set me on me way so now i can get drunk before my speech NOT LOL, nah but thanx a lot for the help , from liverpool uk

From my own experience when I was asked to be a best man, I thought yes what an honour but then, oh no, the speech. Luckily I could write poetry, so I wrote a poem and also luckily I hit the jackpot, it went down a storm, it was perfect and I had accolades all night from lots of guests and photographers.

The beauty of a personalised poem is the fact it is personal, you can read it, and given time to practice, it can be delivered in a meaningful way and last but not least, you don’t have to let on it wasn’t you who wrote it!! But the real beauty is it is a comfort to the best man in case of emergencies; panic attack, too much to drink, etc.

thank you sooo much I’m not a big speakeer around a group of people but when I found out I was speaking in front of 300 people I bricked it! uve made it so much easier thou thanks =0)

thanks for your words of wisdom. as a young best man at my dads wedding its helped me to actually realise what to include in a speech! and is better than those websites which tell you what to write word for word as i can now easily make it personal, yet with a good structure. many thanks.

Yes very helpful never done this before gave me some useful tips and hints thanks….

Thanks , this looks great i am crapping myself but im sure with gr8 template like this and a bit of thought i wont go wrong!!

Thanx for the helpful insight. this is my first best man speech and i’m kinda nervous. great info and direction.

I found the layout provided an excellent tool to found the basis of my speech. I am very grateful for the tools and help provided.
James

A very honest and helpful approach – thank you very much for making this freely available.

thanks for all the help. I ahve to write a best man’s speech in Japanese and as I didn’t even know how to do it in English I panicked, but thanks to this site I have a clearer idea of what to include. Greetings for Tokyo!

This was helpful. I dont like to follow templates but it offered some good tips that lead to good stories for my speech

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